You will not believe when I say gay sex and straight is one and the same, well whatever your opinion is based on to protect your belief they are both born out of thinking and thus always demands newer and different experiences so now what is called straight sex and turned into gay sex after sometime.

We dont know the pure form of sex but for the start point let is take example of animals where it happens occasionally/seasonally and for sole purpose of  maintaining the continuity of their group. When male animals goes through long term accumulation of sperms in its testicles or whatever which when becomes out of control creates a uncontrollable urge to get rid of that by penetrating into female’s organ.

So if you notice that sexual activities amongst some animal groups they are quick and orgasm is immediately after the insertion. unlike humans who turned this into a pleasure movement and wants to extend it longer and also hold the peak point.  There in animal there is no question of deriving pleasure rather its a pain, a pain just like a woman feels during the delivery of a child.

The big baloney concept of male and female both should enjoy sex peak and orgasm must occurs same time for both of them is another flawed spread by some fools. Actually it is impossible if you take the same example of animal.

Now coming back to my initial saying of differentiating between different forms of sex. Peoples have made a line of demarcation between gay sex, lesbian, or straight sex. But that is again fooling oneself. So taking pure form of sex what animals do and then today what couples are doing is adding Masada to that like sucking cock or vagina etc.

Now after sometimes when they are bored they will invite third partners to do 3sum, so its in between when at a time one of them will be engaged doing sexuality with the same sex person. Then there are peoples who are turned or gone through evolution of liking sexuality with the same sex person.

It is one and the same and once sex it first recognized and turned into a pleasure deriving movement it is bound to demand  newer experiences of kamasutra as well as gay sex. It is just like eating food which has purpose to end huger but when turned into a pleassure movement you demand for newer cuisine. Ultimately peoples become non-vegetarian, eat snake, raptiles crabs, fish or different forms of vegetation. But here I dont say that being vegetarian is any different

All of them are born out of thinking.

There has been a constant decline towards the interest for marriage in orthodox countries like India and rest of the world. The inception of metropolitan and workaholic culture has given rise to singles that are touching their middies. For reasons like inflation, substantial economic growth to sustain the family, losing holds of tradition bounds and parents dictation and sexual revolution is rising a slow tide of aversion towards marriage. While the some western countries like Japan, Canada, Germany are already facing severe problem to maintain the level of offspring.

The institution of marriage has been constantly under attack by several reformist and spiritual leaders of 19s. OSHO Rajneesh for example said the institution of marriage should be demolished completely. And to give the continuity of human race there will be free consensual sex between man and woman who will agree to give birth to a child, while its seems very logical through current rules that adults who are responsible for bringing child to this world also be held responsible for its grooming. However OSHO maintained that no one, even the woman unlike in animal world be held responsible for this rather a commune will take care of that.

Some cracks here and there

Current problems that are faced in a unity of male and female that are boredom, question mark on the sanctity of marriage for example cases of adultery that exists in widespread but cannot come light of plea due to the fear of society. growing trends of homosexual relation in the form of gay and lesbians

Emerging possibilities

One solution that is emerging by itself and we can support it by allowing the process of divorce to come into smoothness. So as long as married partners agree to live together happily they continue and thereafter they can separate, where the child will go can be decided by factors like financial baking and inclination of child himself.

Peoples from the high class society going beyond the bound thinking of possessing somebody, they are joining swinger groups, don’t see much of issue having their partner affair with another woman/man, rather there is awareness that it will bring a rejuvenation to their married life.

Ease of sexual availabilities through various communities and buying of sex has become now very much accepted by society and government that now female/males from good background are entering into this arena. Now no one wonder seeing lots of escort news on national dailies and online classified sites.

Fear that binds us

Though there is this trend I have been talking about but still people strongly believe in marriage, what will they do in old age? they will be left lonely once after all of their friends are busy in married life, fantasies about finding true love through that,

If you Google on above term you will get list of phobias, so I decided to write list of fears in my own terms. Scientists simply listed the numerous phobias and don’t seems to bother on explaining their cause, their are happy with finding what is already known to everyone.  All fears comes from desire to protect or keep hold on something.  Some fear might have common roots or derived from others.

Apart from fundamental fears that arises from survival instinct remaining others in human species are caused by society that imposes a certain way of living on individuals as majority of peoples in all societies live with some or other kind of fear but they keep ignoring it and hope for better times to come. The lack of effort fighting these fear in modern man is due to their routinely busy life and increase in fear in the first attempts when you try to tame it.

• Fear of loss of reputation – Here peoples are self conscious and afraid of weird situation they might have to face when having public interactions those effects are such as; anxiety during public speech, approaching a girls, asking help to unknowns and so many others here the cause is trying to protect reputation that has been built over false image of self.
• Fear of poverty – This can clutch man of any wealth and the more wealthy you are the more prone to this fear, basically this fear comes from tendency to hold money into your hands which is like a river and you know that it will go away someday, some illustrations are A person sees nightmare of loosing jobs as he has become so much dependent on money that losing it even for small time would cost him lots of luxuries, others would attach money with the respectability and companions, relatives, friends  who would be gone otherwise,
• Fear of talking to a woman – This is again because we want to protect our reputation a there could be many sides of this fear. Intodays society the relation between man and woman are not natural their are highly affected by cinemas where individual feels a pressure of having on friend of opposite sex that bring reputation on the society and they are also impressed by super man shown in movies and try to imitate them. Now why is one person afraid is he wants woman to be impressed enough to prove his masculinity and outcome of rejection so naturally arises fear of “What if i couldn’t impress her enough in date? or what if she rejects me?”
• Fear to entering someone in group – this is due to tendencies of keeping your holds on your group so if a new member comes into group their are rejected by some  members automatically without any reasons. Same is true for a house wife who wants complete power over her house and their members so any intrusion of family member from husband side would cause a agitation in her.
• Fear of aging -Here the person might be all time conscious of his increasing age this might be common to the masses he might not fear death but increasing age is a notion to detachment from various means of pleasure so basically this fear is connected with other fear, for example increasing age means decreasing chances of sexual encounters.

One very intriguing and tricky thing is every ones fear is different apart from common ones, so what fear haunts you will not affect other person and he might laugh at you when you explain him but that doesn’t mean that he is free of fears. It is just that different peoples are clinging to different things so their fears are unique.

You can take your friend who might talk of his office problems all the time and his fear of boss etc, this might not be a cause of concern to you at all and you might say how silly person is he. All fears are supported by some desire that is not natural to you they are either burden from a society for example if one person is afraid of marriage he might not want to create family and live a free life but present condition of our society is such that one has to marry without a question specially in countries like India. This creates a contradiction into oneself and when he identifies that he is afraid of marriage then the fact behind the fear of marriage is no more but what is called idealization of fear perpetuates.

The major problem in dealing with fear is not able to identify the fear itself and all attempt goes in vein trying to kill something else it is some stupid desire or desire of being free from fear that creates fear. You cannot cure fears by replacing with positive thoughts or ignoring it.