There has been a constant decline towards the interest for marriage in orthodox countries like India and rest of the world. The inception of metropolitan and workaholic culture has given rise to singles that are touching their middies. For reasons like inflation, substantial economic growth to sustain the family, losing holds of tradition bounds and parents dictation and sexual revolution is rising a slow tide of aversion towards marriage. While the some western countries like Japan, Canada, Germany are already facing severe problem to maintain the level of offspring.

The institution of marriage has been constantly under attack by several reformist and spiritual leaders of 19s. OSHO Rajneesh for example said the institution of marriage should be demolished completely. And to give the continuity of human race there will be free consensual sex between man and woman who will agree to give birth to a child, while its seems very logical through current rules that adults who are responsible for bringing child to this world also be held responsible for its grooming. However OSHO maintained that no one, even the woman unlike in animal world be held responsible for this rather a commune will take care of that.

Some cracks here and there

Current problems that are faced in a unity of male and female that are boredom, question mark on the sanctity of marriage for example cases of adultery that exists in widespread but cannot come light of plea due to the fear of society. growing trends of homosexual relation in the form of gay and lesbians

Emerging possibilities

One solution that is emerging by itself and we can support it by allowing the process of divorce to come into smoothness. So as long as married partners agree to live together happily they continue and thereafter they can separate, where the child will go can be decided by factors like financial baking and inclination of child himself.

Peoples from the high class society going beyond the bound thinking of possessing somebody, they are joining swinger groups, don’t see much of issue having their partner affair with another woman/man, rather there is awareness that it will bring a rejuvenation to their married life.

Ease of sexual availabilities through various communities and buying of sex has become now very much accepted by society and government that now female/males from good background are entering into this arena. Now no one wonder seeing lots of escort news on national dailies and online classified sites.

Fear that binds us

Though there is this trend I have been talking about but still people strongly believe in marriage, what will they do in old age? they will be left lonely once after all of their friends are busy in married life, fantasies about finding true love through that,

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UG krishnamurti was remarkable man from past that he stand out from rest of spiritual figures in that  he refuted the traditional ideas of human values and tend to be a furious and raging anti guru. The usefulness of UG Krishnamurti is undoubtedly not in the favor of anyone that he himself repeated over the times. UG greatly criticized Jiddu Krishnamurti yet what he says is heavily borrowed from his teachings.

Some of the points that raised by UG was human mind is incapable to understanding anything new through languages or logical reasoning were true. Personally I would not like to reiterate teaching from any historical figure but UG is something different to me, he is the full stop of all the non-sense everyone is doing. Everyone who used to listen gurus or UG krishnamurti will is bound to fit them into the duality of true or false to make or break in what he is saying for later purpose, we are all doing that and for us UG is no exception. I would not like to convince here about UG beyond what I can as I know it is helpless.

Peoples around the world have been recording his words that later released in online video streaming sites and also in the form of books containing series of conversation, many peoples tried to gain popularity through those media on their own name. However UG declared that his words has no copyrights and anyone can use, modify and distribute it for whatever purpose he has no objections. There have been several areas of life he  posed to answer the questions. But to me it was only the one “All this is adding momentum to that including this one”. matters most.

I believe that in order to understand what UG says one needs tremendeous intelligence and not fall into merry go round of thinking. Some of the the remarkable themes from this person was.

1. Demand for perfection, self realization & becoming is all that is root cause of perpetuating pain.
2. We are naive and accept everything from sources that we put into authority of scientists, spiritual figure, doctors and peoples around us. These peoples talks on health, superiority of human over animal, and moral value system. However there is no way one can test the truth in those statements.
3. Neurotic conditions created in all of us we want sex at the same time we deny it, we want money at the same time we say to others dont become greedy, we want to be called brave at the same time we are thinking to run away from scene we condemn small kids or laugh at peoples to create neurotic condoitions in them.
4. We fool peoples in the name of LOVE, whatever love is at biological level but if you try to find out love you will never get it. Lot of womans are example of this who post in dating sites for demanding sole mate, humorous boyfriend, hunk and bombard guys with too much of restrictions this completely eliminates the chances of getting a good match.

Today religion is dying and gurus are losing their power but they have come back in a dfferent form of movie directors, books writers, columnist that spread their non-sense to common public about LOVE and moralities, how to lead a balanced life, how to make successful sex life, what is required to be a good couple and so on.  If teaching,  philosophy, guru business can be regarded as absolute rubbish and affects life in adverse way you would immediately jump into conclusion that UG is also the same but thats not true. He was the first one to point on this so after him the tendencies to visit more gurus or teachings was slowed in peoples. Hence we can say to many that encounter with this person called UG was absolute necessity to many of us who are caught up in the cycle of efforts and methods. There after I never felt reading any other spiritual philosopher or scientists now they sounds childish.

Here I went wrong that UG was the last one that I am reading now I had no other person. So  I was caught up in repetitively visiting same videos and his books. I bought three books from him (He didnt write those books himself) I was keep doing same thing again and again because I had nothing else to do. Lately I realized that whenever I forgot all that mind and behavioral philosophies I was in perfect harmony and when I start reading those books trouble begins.

UG kept harping that everything including what he is saying now is dead and will only create problems  in you. Life or body that already knows how to live on its own and deals with the external events in a best possible way is unparalleled. So anything that I or you are learning or doing through thought is a superimposition to body. Now I had to delete all his video files from my hard-disk and I am thinking to burn those book. As I truly feel that those books cannot be of any help to others.

This is something beyond true and false. The thing is if there is way for the body to come out of painful or miserably conditions be it physical or psychological you wouldn’t know how ti was able to do that, through what way. You can guess possible ways but next time if you apply the same it never works.