If you Google on above term you will get list of phobias, so I decided to write list of fears in my own terms. Scientists simply listed the numerous phobias and don’t seems to bother on explaining their cause, their are happy with finding what is already known to everyone.  All fears comes from desire to protect or keep hold on something.  Some fear might have common roots or derived from others.

Apart from fundamental fears that arises from survival instinct remaining others in human species are caused by society that imposes a certain way of living on individuals as majority of peoples in all societies live with some or other kind of fear but they keep ignoring it and hope for better times to come. The lack of effort fighting these fear in modern man is due to their routinely busy life and increase in fear in the first attempts when you try to tame it.

• Fear of loss of reputation – Here peoples are self conscious and afraid of weird situation they might have to face when having public interactions those effects are such as; anxiety during public speech, approaching a girls, asking help to unknowns and so many others here the cause is trying to protect reputation that has been built over false image of self.
• Fear of poverty – This can clutch man of any wealth and the more wealthy you are the more prone to this fear, basically this fear comes from tendency to hold money into your hands which is like a river and you know that it will go away someday, some illustrations are A person sees nightmare of loosing jobs as he has become so much dependent on money that losing it even for small time would cost him lots of luxuries, others would attach money with the respectability and companions, relatives, friends  who would be gone otherwise,
• Fear of talking to a woman – This is again because we want to protect our reputation a there could be many sides of this fear. Intodays society the relation between man and woman are not natural their are highly affected by cinemas where individual feels a pressure of having on friend of opposite sex that bring reputation on the society and they are also impressed by super man shown in movies and try to imitate them. Now why is one person afraid is he wants woman to be impressed enough to prove his masculinity and outcome of rejection so naturally arises fear of “What if i couldn’t impress her enough in date? or what if she rejects me?”
• Fear to entering someone in group – this is due to tendencies of keeping your holds on your group so if a new member comes into group their are rejected by some  members automatically without any reasons. Same is true for a house wife who wants complete power over her house and their members so any intrusion of family member from husband side would cause a agitation in her.
• Fear of aging -Here the person might be all time conscious of his increasing age this might be common to the masses he might not fear death but increasing age is a notion to detachment from various means of pleasure so basically this fear is connected with other fear, for example increasing age means decreasing chances of sexual encounters.

One very intriguing and tricky thing is every ones fear is different apart from common ones, so what fear haunts you will not affect other person and he might laugh at you when you explain him but that doesn’t mean that he is free of fears. It is just that different peoples are clinging to different things so their fears are unique.

You can take your friend who might talk of his office problems all the time and his fear of boss etc, this might not be a cause of concern to you at all and you might say how silly person is he. All fears are supported by some desire that is not natural to you they are either burden from a society for example if one person is afraid of marriage he might not want to create family and live a free life but present condition of our society is such that one has to marry without a question specially in countries like India. This creates a contradiction into oneself and when he identifies that he is afraid of marriage then the fact behind the fear of marriage is no more but what is called idealization of fear perpetuates.

The major problem in dealing with fear is not able to identify the fear itself and all attempt goes in vein trying to kill something else it is some stupid desire or desire of being free from fear that creates fear. You cannot cure fears by replacing with positive thoughts or ignoring it.

So fear remains the all time best discussion topic from the times of primitive men who recognized it is a hazardous factor that interfere in the normal living. And today’s men is highly conscious about their fear though most of the peoples keep quite and do not share it. But fear remains everywhere in fact fear rocks..! Different thinkers and seekers have tried to address the problem of fear and how to overcome them in different era of time.  Fear is the hotted topic in all psychological discussion shown on TV, books etc. Everyone likes to talk about their fear and how to get rid of it.

There are innumerable forms of fear and everyone keeps struggling and trying to kill the mosquito biting  all over his body. And when one become utterly exhausted and stop trying then somehow a mosquito drops by completing its own life. And giving birth to thousands new one. And you are again back to the job of killing . This process continues till the time when one becomes dead corpse.

There are few other types of human weakness notably are jealousy, anger, greed etc They are relatively easier to control for example at the times when you become angry and if immediately when you start watching that you are angry without any obvious necessity or reason it dissolves. But fear is entirely different ball game it is the king of kings once you are in the grip of fear nothing works and only after spoiling the situation completely you bewilderingly watch yourself and recognize fear has done that and that gives further power to it for the next chance.

Now coming to discuss why all remedies didn’t work to overcome fear lets go one by one. Some like Chanakya the ancient pandit of India says as soon as fear enters kill it. That is in other words trying to suppress fear, replace it with positive ones or ignore it will not work at all because the very nature of mind is such that it will try to seek what is blocked by you. So this approach will increase your fear instead of making any improvements.

Basically all types of methods have been fundamentally wrong in that they are trying to kill a  mosquito that does not exist in the first place. Fear is not a primary symptom and cannot exist on its own this needs to be understood. Fear arises when there is expectation to achieve something in the future, attempt to prove something, trying to become somebody. I will take one example here;

In the old times peoples were afraid of death, death due to illness, death due to enemy assault. So we can conclude that all fear were branched from a single fear called “Fear of death” For this huge fear other forms of fear were created for example. People started accumulating arms, armies and from their came the need of protecting it from thieves or loots, not only that large masses were afraid of those armed peoples who were ready to take anything from helpless and innocent peoples. There can be numerous such example i don’t want to delve into that too much.

Now I will come to our condition knowing that today there is less chances of war because after second world war nations have shown little matures as well basic amenities of life can be obtained without robbing anyone’s private properties, basically peoples are busy with their own work and livelihood. Not only that scientific advances in the field of different  therapy had brought a support to individuals that he can be made to live till old age in most of the cases. So death is not our concerns. So what is actual concerns..?

That is being British.  No one should laugh at me. Some examples are what if I stuck in the middle of public speech all my reputation will be in mud, What if I failed to save my beloved from crooks what they will think about me? What if I am unable to deliver the work at right time all my reputation in the company will be gone?…Do we not think like that?

19th century was flooded with the vast of spiritual teachers and thinkers of human psychology one noticeable of them was J Krishnamurthy who went for world wide public speaking on the matter of human psyche, effect of society and functioning of mind etc. Peoples have been following one guru/teacher after another they tried to practice all sort of exercises ranging from mental to physical but futility of those effort and then questions raised by some intellects on the usefulness of those preachings made this topic debatable that whether there exist higher, blissful and peaceful state and can we achieve that and most important does spiritual gurus, scriptures helps in those pursuit?

From the past

One thing to be observed is as the time progress so is the evolution of our species what problem haunted the old world  are not much of concerns today. Fear of death was prevalent in those days not only due to premature end of life by deadly diseases without in cure that time. Thus the initial fear of death leads us to find some kind of perpetual moral ethics to cling on that gave the life to world after death like heaven/hell and the rebirth. Peoples of today’s time still confuse themselves with the actuality behind reincarnation belief, missing the point that was only to give moral support to people of old times whereas today man is not much think of death and accepts it as it is.

Meaninglessness of religion

Now that religions have been fading away and as more peoples are educated as well as see any statement through logic and scientific analysis slowly but lot of hold religions on people is slipping. Mans world is more at peace and able to fulfill their basic demands more easily it seems foolish to take refuge of writings that have been written thousands of years back.

Today’s mankind

Man of today not free from mental illness or self deception though we cannot conclude that mans attention is moved from outer world of survival to oneself because though we can now easily earn livelihood but now our conscience is at the most of the time occupied by machines hence we don’t have enough time to think about our weakness that remains inert in the subtle forms. The major issues today is generated due to peoples are becoming intellectual, more educated and experienced in an ordinary sense that is benefit but major issue it of conditioning of human psyche. As more you learn your brain becomes cluttered of thoughts and hence all actions we do are limited by the nature of thoughts, prejudice and pre-expectations which an ancient man wouldn’t had to face.

Problems with spiritual grasping.

The major problem is of communication and limitation of language one spiritual guru or enlightened man cannot transmit his experience to another man by the virtue of words. There will be always dead listening filtered through logic and false interpretation of what speaker is  saying. Another issue is loss of possibility in attaining such tranquil state become much more difficult after listening to what speaker is sharing from his experience as everything becomes the part of mind and thus dead.

Now why this happens? why we are not able to take what a spiritually enlightened person is sayings because of again dead mind. There are two notable reason behind this one is mans tendency to imitate things from others thousands of peoples have to copy Buddha posture but no avail. Some concluded that every individual is unique what brings success to one cannot be applied to another person, well this in my opinion is wrong peoples are similar in one sense also. On the other hand we acquired the habits of learning through logic of dead mind. Hence what is written on books, or told by a higher mind teacher goes into waste bin.

A basic difficulties one seeker encounters in his initial attempts is what tools he has got in his Armour is all made of mind and thats what he is trying to control where as mind has intelligent defense system to protect its own existence. I” will take one example suppose a person is facing first time the public speaking he might stumble upon words or some awkward situation he might face. as soon as speech is over he might think over his performance again and then see some problems in delivery which otherwise would have been disappeared in the next attempt by the very intelligent mechanics of body-mind system but now identification of the problem and trying to improve upon persists thus actual problem is no more but trying to improve becomes the problem, he might do several attempts to rectify this problem through techniques but no avail.

A direct disapproval of psyche teaching cannot be concluded as right thing, you approach more and more techniques from gurus, books or through self research. they will continue to replace one ideology with another this continues the day you slowly become aware that all those preaching are of no help except they took you to this location where all of them seems to gone in vein. This will start a process of slowly ceasing of mind, its logics, its questions etc.

Understanding and knowing

There is huge difference between the word understanding and knowing of something. Knowing something is that comes through when you scrutinies something based on past knowledge and logic and then accept it as true. Where as understanding requires no tools that is used for knowing. One has to be utterly silent before he can understand something far from logic and interference of any past knowledge. There is great deal of hindrance comes because of social conditioning, throughout ones life person keeps accumulating more and more memory and this memory blocks his ability to see anything new this will reach to a peak point of saturation

Tackling with mind & its nature

Now knowing that all that tools which uses to control the mind is also made of mind therefore bound to fail. this means that mind which is dead and made of past memories you device one techniques that is again made of mind hence dead and cannot remain working in the different situation. One example of such is if a person is practicing meditation and attempting to become thoughtless by suppressing of undesirable thoughts, replacing them with different one or neglecting them will not work! Here we need to understand the basic tendency mind that is if you try to control it it becomes more and more agitated. A person trying to perform fasting or celibacy for a period things about food or sex all over the day whereas fasting / or celibacy can be automatically achieved effortlessly sometimes accidentally.